Pains

What Do You Mean They Can Be Good For You?

"Pains can help me, if they don't kill me..." oh really? Although I never voiced it out loud, this statement burned in my heart when I first heard it.

Let me clarify, I am not referring to the gruesome 'cut-um-up', gun shot, or torturing type of stuff. Perhaps this word conjures up the wrong image. But for a young girl trying to understand and deal with sexual abuse -
pain is the perfect word.

As I stated on my "About Me Page" my desire is not to imply that I have all the answers. My hope is that someone may read what I have to share in My Story and draw strength from it. Never lose hope. You don't have to walk down the lonely road alone.

It didn't kill me

I am still here (thank you Jesus)! I never dreamed my life would turn out the way that it has.
I was told repeatedly by my father that if I told anyone about what was happening no man would ever want to marry me. That I would never amount to anything.

Words can and will keep you bound if you let them.
The sexual abuse that I endured during my younger years did almost kill me. It caused me to become suicidal.

Many times I just wanted to end the sadness. A sense of hopelessness can come over you when you don't see your situation changing for the better. Please let me state right here that I am not a Dr. or anything like that. I am simply speaking from my life experience. If you have thoughts of suicide don't keep them bottled up inside. Talk to someone who can help.

Break free don't let stuff keep you bound. I'm not ashamed anymore. The more I share my story the braver I get. I've accepted the fact that
I didn't do anything wrong. I've let go of the guilt.

When Does The 'Good' Part Show Up?

Sooner than later for some. However it took me a long time. When you are able to take the hurt and pain that you may have endured in a situation, forgive and then learn how to 'Eat it for breakfast' so to speak, you'll be in a better position to begin the healing process.

Please know I am not being flippant, or making light of your situation.

Just trying to encourage you become proactive in regards to your life. It's time to get up!

It's time to take control of your life!

It can be a simple as getting up and looking at yourself in the mirror and saying (OUT LOUD)

"Things Will Be Different Today"!
Then physically draw a line on the floor with your foot. Draw the line BEHIND you. Why behind you? Because I want you to say to yourself "I'm not going to be pushed back any longer"! It stops right here right now. I want to begin to move forward.

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Have You Drawn Your Line?

Sometimes talking or writing about what you’re experiencing can be a great help. Not only for yourself, but for others as well. We encourage you to 'draw your line' if you haven't done so already.

Tips On Line Drawing

Acknowledge It Give, It A Name.

Literally go through the motion of drawing a line on the floor (behind you) with your foot.

Say Out Loud "The Name Of Problem" (even if it is 'you'),will no longer hurt, push or hold me down!

Forgive
It's More Important Than You May Realize

Understand that you have only applied the brakes. Depending on how large of situation you're dealing with will determine how fast you can come to a complete stop. Only then you can begin to start moving in a positive direction.

EXAMPLE

While looking in my mirror I draw my line on the floor behind me. The 3 C's is the name of what is hindering me. "Cakes Cookies & Candy" you will no longer hold me down.

I understand that just saying it out loud isn't a 'magic hocuspocus'. I now have to come up with a game plan on how to stop stuffing so many of the 3 C's into my mouth!

I forgive myself for over eating in this area (the 3 C's aren't bad in moderation). If you believe in Jesus consider asking His forgiveness for not taking better care of your body. Also consider asking for help in this area.

This has been a simple example of a not so simple problem for some women.

Then I would share my 'Action Plan".

1. Why am I craving, are the 3 C's being caused by an even bigger problem; that's a whole 'nuther' problem :o( for another page!
Do I just like sweets? If yes, limit the amount I bring into the house, set guide lines on how many I will consume in a weeks time. Stick to the plan!

2. Can I curb my desire for the 3 C's by substituting something healthy (carrot stick hmmm yum!)or a glass of water? Try it.

3. Exercise, it can lift your spirits (especially if you start losing the signs that you have been eating so many of the 3 C's.

4. Ask yourself "Am I getting enough rest"? If the answer is no, take steps to insure you get in bed at the right time.

So Have You Drawn Your Line?

Tell us about it? It's easy to do, simply name your pain then click on the form link.

What's The Name Of Your Pain?

Tell us what caused you to draw your line on the floor, share how and what you did to put the brakes on.
You never know someone else may be in the same situation. Your sharing will be a blessing to someone who feels she is the only one dealing with this porblem. [ ? ]

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